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Romantic gestures can go terribly wrong. Beware these pitfalls.

“I’ve been married 19 years and I just found out my husband likes mustard on his sandwiches!” tweeted author Sheila Gregoire. I had to chuckle at that but, inspired by her honesty, I asked my wife “Is there anything like that that I should know about?” Thinking for a moment, she politely replied “Well, you do put too much milk on my cereal.” Hmm… I’ve been flubbing the cereal for 28 years? Who knew!

I realize these are small tweaks in the grand scheme of things, but they are indicative of a romantic paradox verified in a study published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology (August 2010). According to the authors “Our results indicate that older couples had lower accuracy in predicting each other’s preferences than younger couples even though older couples in our study had spent an average of 40 years longer together.” They go on to describe many possible explanations for the discrepancy, but, to summarize; it basically comes down to an assumption problem. We assume we know too much about our heartmate. Continue Reading…

Remember: Safety First!

“You’re on fire.”

“Ah… Thanks hun.”

“No, seriously, your hair!”

We laugh about it now, but I’m not making this up. She’d had a long day at work, so I’d poured a romantic bath for my Lovely complete with romantic candles around the tub. As she sank into the warm water, her long hair bent into one of the flames and caught on fire! Fortunately a quick dip underwater solved the problem before she got hurt, but it has always been a reminder to me to make sure that I try and ensure my romantic gestures are as safe as possible.


Clearly things can go terribly wrong. Consider these hazards:

1. Fire – The fact that there is a State Farm Ad about using candles safely on Valentine’s Day suggests that our near miss is not as rare as you’d hope. Contrary to what Eminem and Rhianna might want you to think, burning the house down isn’t romantic.

2. Water – One of the most horrific romantic-gestures-gone-wrong that I’ve ever heard of involved a planned marriage proposal on the ocean. In 2008, a bride-to-be was swept out to sea by a “sneaker wave” on the Oregon coast.

3. Lightning – A proposal in the beauty of the outdoors went tragically wrong when the bride-to-be was struck by lightning.


Every romantic gesture comes with risks – some emotional, some physical, some you can plan for, some you can’t. Anything you can do to ensure that your romantic gesture is as safe as possible is surely worth the planning.

Question: Have you ever had a near miss during a romantic gesture with your heartmate?