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	<description>Blabbing about romance beyond the bedroom. Married 29 years and still looking for new ways to show her I love her.</description>
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		<title>Love sung in any other language&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2011/02/21/love-sung-in-any-other-language/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Feb 2011 06:59:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m old enough to remember when rap &#38; hip-hop didn&#8217;t even exist. I love music of all sorts (I&#8217;m more about the message than the packaging) and I&#8217;ve been telling friends for years that I believe the next big thing in music will likely be some sort of eastern fusion. So I was really pleased when I got a chance to pick the brains of someone who plays Bollywood and Bhangra music for a living. Thanks to Angelina Rai of RJ1200 for sending along the following list of love songs! I think my favorite is Jab Mila Tu. Pehli Nazar Mein (At First Sight) by Atif Aslam [Lyrics] Saiyyan (My Love) by Kailash Kher Teray Hussan De Maare (Your Beauty Kills Me) by Master Saleem Jab Mila Tu (Since I&#8217;ve Met You) by Vishal Dadlani [Lyrics] Pee Loon (Will Drink) sung by Mohit Chauhan Anyone have any other suggestions for foreign language love songs? In my mind, the ideal love song: should  not be a &#8220;pining&#8221; or breakup song. I want songs about a type of love that is mature and functional. :) preferably should not be &#8220;I&#8217;d be nothing without you&#8221; songs. I believe heartmates are functional individuals on [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dissecting Romantic Gestures</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2011/02/05/dissecting-romantic-gestures/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Feb 2011 23:05:13 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[            In one sense, it&#8217;s not terribly romantic to dissect romance, but I&#8217;ve started doing just that. I want to help others learn how to create meaningful romantic gestures for their heartmate. And yes, I believe this is a skill that can be learned.   As I outline my thinking, I’d love your input. (I give my first talk on the subject in two weeks at a men’s breakfast, so I really need to get my thinking in writing!) This is my framework so far: When constructing a Rated G Romantic gesture, I think I&#8217;ve decided that it basically comes down to what I am calling lenses &#38; layers. “Lenses” help focus the possibilities. They are about really “knowing” him or her. These lenses include your heartmate’s: love language(s) – e.g. Words of Affirmation tendency to be an introvert or extrovert predisposition to be a risk taker phobias – e.g. My Mrs. is phobic of “hanging rides.” A gondola ride would be no fun. lifestyle choices – e.g. There’s no point taking a vegetarian to a steak house. stature. preferences – e.g. roses vs. orchids, rap vs. jazz, etc. All romantic gestures must also me [...]]]></description>
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		<title>#Romancewin with a Smile</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/12/21/romancewin-with-a-smile/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/12/21/romancewin-with-a-smile/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 21 Dec 2010 16:01:37 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<title>Stripping Romance &#8211; #Romancefail the Comic Way :)</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/11/28/stripping-romance-romancefail-the-comic-way/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/11/28/stripping-romance-romancefail-the-comic-way/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 28 Nov 2010 22:16:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<title>If I were a color, I’d be complimentary…</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/11/14/if-i-were-a-color-id-be-complimentary/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/11/14/if-i-were-a-color-id-be-complimentary/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 15 Nov 2010 00:19:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I love the short film Validation . In this romantic festival favorite, the protagonist literally changes the world with sincere compliments. After watching this film I felt, well, validated. In my day to day life, I have long been someone that is likely to say to a friend, colleague or even total stranger &#8220;Nice smile&#8221; or &#8220;Great shoes today&#8221; or whatever. I think it is essential that alpha romantics practice being complimentary. However, the movie diverges from reality on one key point: Not everyone can accept a compliment, especially from a member of the opposite sex. There are those that feel they don&#8217;t deserve a compliment and are always looking for the ulterior motive. There are those that have been trained to equate compliments with pick-up lines and flirting. Still others have no real idea why it makes them feel unsafe or uncomfortable. I find this very sad. Everyone is worthy of a compliment&#8230; everyone is special in some way, shape or form. Not everyone has an ulterior motive or is a pickup artist and it is a shame that I can get painted with that brush. But the thing that makes this the saddest for me is the fact that, given that [...]]]></description>
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		<title>“What is your take on cheating?”</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/09/01/what-is-your-take-on-cheating/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/09/01/what-is-your-take-on-cheating/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 01 Sep 2010 15:14:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;What is your take on cheating Greg?&#8221; was the rather provocative question I received on Twitter yesterday. “It’s bad,” was my less than enlightening response. “Would you forgive?” Now I was getting the real question and frankly the answer is a lot more complicated. First off, I’ve been really pondering what it means to forgive. It isn’t as easy to define as you might think (see the discussion topic “What is forgiveness?”).  Similarly, there are definitely degrees of cheating (physical, emotional, drunk-once, long term, passively permitted, etc.). So would I forgive? Yes. Would I stay together? That depends. You see, for me, cheating is less about a physical, observable act and more about a loss of trust and transparency in a relationship. If you feel you have to hide anything from your SO, especially because of guilt, shame or fear, you are setting yourself up to fail &#8211; period. Maybe I watched too many episodes of The Brady Bunch growing up, but I am of the persuasion that the longer you stay together, the more likely a lie will be uncovered: either explicitly or at least “felt.” Cheating &#8211; that kept secret &#8211; is a ticking time-bomb waiting to go [...]]]></description>
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		<title>He cheated. Should he confess?</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/02/24/he-cheated-should-he-confess/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/02/24/he-cheated-should-he-confess/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 25 Feb 2010 04:13:59 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[As someone interested in the dynamics of love and relationships, I sometimes get sucked into the oddest conversations and debates. The following is an example of just that. I have my opinion about the following scenerio, but what do you think is the right thing for this guy to do? Scenario: A man has been in a romantic relationship with a woman for about one year. The relationship is going well, companionship has been achieved, but there is a noticeable lack of excitement and desire in the relationship. It feels as though the relationship has become stale and both partners would agree that they need to find a way to rejuvenate and add excitement to the relationship. The man then goes out to a party and meets a girl that sexually interests him and he rationalizes that the relationship he currently in is not meeting his needs and will need some work in order to rekindle the desire. After a few drinks, rationale leaves his mind; he throws in the towel and has a sexual affair believing regardless of that night he would be breaking up with the girlfriend in the future. He believes she will never find out. Given [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Review: “The Five Love Languages” by @DrGaryChapman</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/01/25/review-%e2%80%9cthe-five-love-languages%e2%80%9d-by-drgarychapman/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/01/25/review-%e2%80%9cthe-five-love-languages%e2%80%9d-by-drgarychapman/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 07:58:53 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Misc.]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[A few months back I picked up the book “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman. I am in the research/rough draft stage of a writing a “romance” how-to book and as part of that exercise I kept running across the concept of love languages.  I thought I should check it out and I’m very glad I did. First, what the book is not. It is not a romance how-to book, although it does include some good ideas. It is not an exploration of different kinds of love (e.g. the Greeks had eros, philia, agape, storge and thelema) – there are other books on that.  And while Dr. Chapman devotes a chapter to the “in love” experience (aka limerance), it is a book about long term emotional  love – love that is a choice. The subtitle of the book is “How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.” The author’s position is that, even though being loved is important to everyone, different people express/receive love in different ways &#8211; each person has a primary “love language” that fills their “love tank” the best. He categorizes these languages as: - Quality Time - Words of Affirmation - Gifts - Acts [...]]]></description>
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		<title>It&#8217;s Not Just the Gift&#8230;</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/01/14/its-not-just-the-gift/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2010/01/14/its-not-just-the-gift/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 14 Jan 2010 14:59:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[For some it&#8217;s the actual gift that is important; for others, the words on the card. Still others will be remember forever the kiss on delivery. Some, it will be the setting and the time being together when the gift is given that will make them swoon. And for others, it&#8217;s cleaning the kitchen, without being asked, before you even bother to give it that will make them swoon. These are all important, but everyone has a different emphasis. Know your SO&#8217;s love language!]]></description>
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		<title>#RomanceWin2009 ?</title>
		<link>http://ratedgromance.com/2009/12/30/romancewin2009/</link>
		<comments>http://ratedgromance.com/2009/12/30/romancewin2009/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Dec 2009 00:22:06 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Gregory Blake</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Misc.]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[What was your most romantic moment in 2009? A special event? Gift? Something said? I&#8217;d love to hear about your #RomanceWin2009. :-) @PupPup143Kitty When my SO professed their love for me in front of hundreds of people. @SingleInThe604 Second date, a guy I dated made me a surprise picnic and took me to the beach. It was sweet and special.]]></description>
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